4 million are affected by an epidemic of relationship shifting that breaks traditional notions of what a couple should be. Men, Women that have denied their true sexuality in order to follow societal norm of the traditional marriage scenario are increasingly finding other options to “coming out”, I've seen families suffer collateral damage of lives that will forever be changed. Is there anyway to know my husband is gay? Support for the other man, gay husbands, straight spouse & wives of gay men. Coming out is not an event. It's a lifelong process of overcoming learned shame and increasing self-acceptance. I advocate that all gay men must strive to come out - fully. No one can truly be happy and thrive in the shame and secrecy of being in the closet - fully or partially.
“Many men like Dennis Schleicher are walking around in a gay wasteland looking for love. They’re dazed in despair, crying out for love in an often hostile barren land.
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Be safe- Dennis Schleicher Best-Selling Author "Forbidden Love with a Married Man; E-mail Diaries" Support Group Counselor...
Tantric massage is the use of massage techniques to achieve or enhance sexual arousal. Massages have been used for medical purposes for a very long time. And their use for erotic purposes also has a long history. Today tantric massage is used by some people on occasion as a part of sex, either as foreplay or as the final sex act. Tantric massages typically feature massages in the erogenous zones of the body to increase sexual arousal.
Like all relationships that last over a long period, gay partnerships
change and evolve as the years pass, but the change can occur over time
just might happen so gradual both partners may not realize they are
happening, and misunderstandings can sometimes arise. As the gay society
has many deep issues dealing with self-esteem and self-worth,
accompanied by years of societal conditioning that lends itself to
manifest externally through self-worth. Partners do not always pass from
one stage of development of their relationship to the next at the same
time, and so changes can be misinterpreted as a loss of interest. If,
for instance, one partner is still in the passionate ‘honeymoon’ period
of the relationship, craving sex at all times of day and night, while
his partner has moved on to the less frantic second period, of their
relationship development. Where the relationship emphasis is placed on
home making along with developing a family, then there may be a mistaken
perception that the relationship has run its course. Gay relationships
can extend over many decades, or they may last only one night. Whether
long or short term, they should be treated with respect, and that
participates should mean not only to pleasure each other’s bodies, but
to enhance each other’s mind, and spirits. When you share something of
yourself with another person, it should enrich you both, and when you
offer your bodies to each other, it should involve more than just the
ambition to achieve an orgasm. It would be unrealistic to expect every
sexual encounter to be a transcendental, life-changing experience.
Sometimes there is no empathy, no concentration, no connection, no
common ground between you and your partner, and you both except that you
do not want to pursue your connection. However, when this occurs, you
both should not treat yourselves with the lack of dignity that we
deserve as human beings.
Please refer to my friends to book (Straight Acting) by Angelo Pezzote. Chapter 7, Solutions: how gay men can OPT OUT, Triumph and Thrive. Post your comments and tell us what you think???
Best-selling author of an explosive and controversial memoir; (Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-Mail Diaries)
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Periodically, myself the author of an explosives and controversial memoir “Forbidden Love with a Married Man; E-Mail Diaries.” and founder of several support groups and international lecturer, receives e-mails from the “other man” or the “other woman”. These terms, because of their link to an affair outside the marriage, tend to have a stigma attached to them. Perhaps their rights will change with time. These people, emotionally or romantically attached to another person who is already married, are often more concerned about the well being of that person, than about their own well being. That is ok to a point, but there is an old saying: “Never, ever get involved with a married person”This paints a particularly black picture, but this is deliberate. Many single people become the “other person” in a love triangle because of what their heart is telling them, but more often than not, because they do not know the whole truth about their new friend, who has withheld the information that they are already married. This is where the lies start. They are not necessarily intentional lies - they are what they want the other person to hear. With the discovery of the marital status, there could be promises that the married person will leave their spouse and children, and come and live with the “other man or person”. Such promises are rarely fulfilled. The reason for never ever getting involved with a married person is that in the majority of cases, the married person will never leave the marital nest unless forced to do so. They want their cake and eat it too. This can lead to a lot of pain and hurt for the “other man”, to frustration and to lost time, when they could be perhaps finding someone else who is not married to spend their life with. So think twice, unless you are married yourself, to becoming the “other man”. That “other person–man” has feelings just like anyone else. Trust me. I was there. I have a published diary to prove it…!!!
Dennis J. Schleicher
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More on Coming Out For people of a certain age, initial attempts at coming out are most likely awkward at best and devastating at worst. First there was the struggle to become comfortable enough whit your own sexuality to actually talk about it with a close friend, confidante or at best someone you meet online. Then there were the conversations themselves tentative mumblings, explosions of guilt, bursts of jubilation, or stammering combinations of all three. Finally, most memorable of all, there was the stunned silence that often greeted the big "confession." All this drama made a certain sense.
Coming Out is NOT for everyone!!! But for some it’s the only choice and for others, it will never be an option. Tell us your coming out story???
Coming out is among the most controversial and sensitive issues in the realm of homosexuality, especially within countries and societies where same sex relations are being frowned upon, if not loathed. Even in a country as liberal and as open minded as the United States, hundreds of gay and bisexual men and women are still confused whether or not to reveal their sexuality, more so even face it. While films, literature, and mass media have been very supportive of the aims of gay liberation, and bombarding the world with different projects that encourage homosexual people to come out, truth is when the case is zoomed in on the personal, individual level, the difficulty, anxiety, fear and frustration of disclosing one’s self are really overwhelming.
Coming out stories, whether in print, radio, television, and online, are very helpful to gays and bisexuals who would want to come out but do not know how. These stories, drawn from real lives, show a wide range of cases of fear in coming out, among them being an only son, having a religious family, coming from a high-profile clan, belonging to a homophobic school or office, and many others. These coming out stories inspire gay men and women to come to terms with themselves and be comfortable and happy with who they are. Their continuous emergence in the media help forward the acceptance and equality that the gay population deserves, and wash away conservative, close-minded and prosecuting notions against homosexuality and queerness.
Coming out stories should not be seen as propagandas that make gay people grab megaphones and announce to the world their preference for the same sex. In fact, within the realm of gay culture itself, “coming out” and its extent are still being debated. It should be noted that coming out is not being done just for the sake of sexual declaration. It is done because gays need to share their loved ones and people important to them the lives that they live and want to live, without lies, without denials, without hiding.
The White House issued a statement in advance of Gay Pride Month, declaring LGBT rights to be human rights and recapping President Obama's efforts at advancing equality here and abroad.
"The story of America's Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) community is the story of our fathers and sons, our mothers and daughters, and our friends and neighbors who continue the task of making our country a more perfect Union," reads the statement. "It is a story about the struggle to realize the great American promise that all people can live with dignity and fairness under the law. Each June, we commemorate the courageous individuals who have fought to achieve this promise for LGBT Americans, and we rededicate ourselves to the pursuit of equal rights for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
"Since taking office, my Administration has made significant progress towards achieving equality for LGBT Americans. Last December, I was proud to sign the repeal of the discriminatory 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' policy. With this repeal, gay and lesbian Americans will be able to serve openly in our Armed Forces for the first time in our Nation's history. Our national security will be strengthened and the heroic contributions these Americans make to our military, and have made throughout our history, will be fully recognized.
"My Administration has also taken steps to eliminate discrimination against LGBT Americans in Federal housing programs and to give LGBT Americans the right to visit their loved ones in the hospital. We have made clear through executive branch nondiscrimination policies that discrimination on the basis of gender identity in the Federal workplace will not be tolerated. I have continued to nominate and appoint highly qualified, openly LGBT individuals to executive branch and judicial positions. Because we recognize that LGBT rights are human rights, my Administration stands with advocates of equality around the world in leading the fight against pernicious laws targeting LGBT persons and malicious attempts to exclude LGBT organizations from full participation in the international system. We led a global campaign to ensure 'sexual orientation' was included in the United Nations resolution on extrajudicial execution — the only United Nations resolution that specifically mentions LGBT people — to send the unequivocal message that no matter where it occurs, state-sanctioned killing of gays and lesbians is indefensible. No one should be harmed because of who they are or who they love, and my Administration has mobilized unprecedented public commitments from countries around the world to join in the fight against hate and homophobia."
Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG) Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians & Gays (PFLAG) is a national non-profit organization with over 250,000 members and supporters and over 500 affiliates in the United States. This vast grassroots network is cultivated, resourced and serviced by the PFLAG national office, located in Washington, D.C., the national Board of Directors and 14 Regional Directors.
Hartford Gay and Lesbian Health Collective "The Hartford Gay & Lesbian Health Collective empowers individuals of diverse sexual orientations, gender identities and gender expressions to lead healthy lives through the provision of health and support services, education and advocacy."
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Bi The Way; An exploration of Male Bisexuality Bisexuality is a topic that remains largely taboo for a lot of men, despite the fact that there are millions of men out there who find themselves attracted to both men and women. There is a lot of pressure, particularly on young men to either identify themselves as straight or gay, and whilst peer pressure makes it hard to come out as gay, its even more difficult to come out as bisexual as there is no clear peer group where you can turn to support.